My father-in-law hated that his younger brother was the favourite and worked very hard to treat all of his kids the same, because he never wanted to be accused of having a favourite child.
It's sad when as an adult you realise that your parents still play favourites.
Sadder still when you have proof that they don't even like you as a person, but put up with you as you are their child. That sucks!
I think when your children grow older, you need to figure out how to relate to them, not as children but as adults. I'm sure this must be hard.
But as I've been thinking about it, I think I will relate to my children all differently because they are very different individuals. I will try and work out what their love language is, and then focus on that as I relate to them.
If their love language is time, then I will spend time with them.
If their love language is affirmation, then I will use my speech to affirm them.
And so on and so forth.
This way none of them will be able to (hopefully) feel that I play favourites. As I will address our relationships in ways that appeal to them.
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